Sep 02 2013

The Question was asked: What makes a good Succubus?

Some time ago, someone who shall remain nameless, at least for the moment, contacted me and asked a question …


What makes a good succubus?

I thought about that for a while, and I realized something: that I really have never shared what I think is fairly obvious in the stories about the Succubi, and one particular Queen …

First of all, those of the Realm—succubi and incubi both—are more than most give them credit for. They are seductive, not crass, not aloof, not anything that takes away from what they are. They are the stuff of dreams, passions, and desires. Each and every one of them can make those dreams … real … so very much so.

A Collective Succubi is in control of her situation. She isn’t “evil”; she is what she wishes to be to make the most of those whom she is with. She can be the feather touches against another’s body that brings her partner to orgasm in a moment. She can be the harsh Mistress who is desired at the same moment. She can exist in the wishes and dreams of those that seek her, and in a moment become those dreams …

She sees into her partners’ dreams, hopes, and desires and changes herself to reflect them perfectly. She knows the precise words that draw others to her, senses how to bring them pleasure, and then in return she becomes more alive from those pleasures that they have offered.

I don’t subscribe to the stereotypical image of Succubi as evil beings who care only for destruction and the taking of others lives and souls. Those who think they are not angels because they have horns and tails do not see their halos and wings, which means they cannot see their own dreams and desires, either. The evil image came about because of societal beliefs about sex in the past. It has been seen as being … if not evil, then something that is frowned upon. This is wrong; sex is part of human nature, and if that is embraced through the Succubi, then they are not evil for giving fantasy in return …

… After all, it isn’t wrong to have a moment of pleasure, is it?

That brings me to hooves. Succubi, at least the ones in my stories and in the Realm, do not have them. Those are the marks of creatures that are darkness, loss, and evil, creatures that are less then human. That is not who Succubi are, not truly so, because being evil, being destructive, only means having to, over and over again, start anew … to find someone else and then destroy that one, leaving a trail behind which can only end in the succubi’s own eventual end.

A poor succubus is one who cannot think, cannot feel, cannot understand that being “evil” is a choice. Choice is what makes anything possible and, if they think they have no choice, they cannot come to see that they are more than they are. Perhaps that is the one aspect of many Succubi that hinders them: they cannot see that they have choice; they assume that they are “stuck” are “unworthy” or “unclean” because that is what the legends say they are … But they aren’t, and, when they realize that, then and only then can they see what they really are capable of.

Succubi are, at least to me, so much more than all of this. They are … possibilities … both Light and Dark … and that makes them more than either side can understand. It is that idea of choice, of choosing to be both/and, the in-between and beyond the two, that makes Realm succubi … more. Choosing to be more than they are expected to be makes them so. And in the becoming there is delight and wonder and joy, for every succubi and for every life she touches.

This I know. This is what I try to share in my stories …

But the question of choice means that not every being in the Realm is enlightened—some choose not to be, and some are afraid to choose. Some still follow the old ways, some toy with them, some are trying to find their ways. Some will, some will not, but, in the end, the choice is theirs to make and so they do, each in her or his own time.

Perhaps that is a side of the Realm that I will have to explore sometime … But then there are many stories in the Realm, many moments to wonder about, and I hope that I’ll manage to share many of them …

We shall see … together.





  1. avatar

    For more than five years, I have been privileged to watch your vision of the succubi, and your interpretation of them on the page, grow and deepen. I am looking forward to as much more as you are willing to share.

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    I like this definition of what succubus is. It allows them to be darkly seductive without pidgeonholing them into the role. The more room for complexity there is with characters the better those characters usually turn out. People want to read about other people, not cardboard cutouts or blow-up dolls. I know it’s cliche’ to say this, but personality really does matter more than looks.

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    That privilege is a two way street my heart…


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